Wednesday, September 24, 2014

How High Meadows Staffers Communicate When They Need Help

What follows is an email exchange between Middle Years English Teacher Meddie Finnegan and Technology Integration Specialist Mitch Novy. Meddie's Activboard was acting up and she was requesting Mitch's assistance. This is how the interaction went down...

Dear Mitch,

I have the Activboard blues. This time the keyboard won’t work. Here’s a little song I wrote about it – for your entertainment.

I have the active board blues
I feel it in my shoes,
A keyboard that won’t work
Mr. Calibration is a jerk.
The hard drive, she is fussy –
A deep hibernation hussy,
And a pen that was on the lam
Really left me in a jam
The active board blues -
Oooooh, the active board blues –

Whoooaaa whooooaaaa 


Dear Meddie,

Here is a rap version of my response:

Yo, my name is Mitch and I’m here to say
I don’t want you to feel dismay.
Activboards can be a useful tool
But when they don’t function, you look like a fool.
I’ll bring a new keyboard from our stash.
That old one you have belongs in the trash.
I’ll check the board’s pen for you, Meddie,
We’ll get you back to being happy and ready.

Word.

Needless to say the problem got fixed right away.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Experiencing Forgiveness

A fews ago when I was the head of High Meadows School, I was walking the halls of the early childhood building and heard something extraordinary.

A teacher was seated on the floor outside of her classroom with a young student. From what I could glean, the student was not getting along well with one of his classmates. 

"She keeps bumping into me and she knows she's doing it," said the student. "She did it last year too and it makes me mad."

After guiding the student to think of his own strategies to improve the relationship, he sat quietly. "Are you OK with this?" asked the teacher. "Something tells me that you're not."

Her heartfelt sensitivity to the child's feelings opened him up right away. "I just don't think it's going to stop," he said.

"Do you know what it means to forgive?" the teacher asked. "I like to think of people as lumps of clay. We can be molded and changed, and we are never the same. It's possible to change and be different shapes over time. So if you give her time and space, you might notice that she has grown and changed too."

The student sat quietly, pondering what his teacher had just said. Sensing that she needed to go a bit further with him, the teacher said, "You know, bad feelings about someone can weigh on your heart like a boulder. It can actually make you keep feeling angry if you don't let go of that heavy boulder."

What a lesson! The teacher, demonstrating natural intuition and compassion, engaged the student's trust as he shared with her his honest feelings. She guided him in coming up with his own strategies. She then used metaphor, a powerful teaching tool, to illustrate the nature of change and the ill-effects of holding on to resentments.

I hope the outcome is as strong as the lesson, but the lesson itself will stay with this student for a long time. I know it will stay with me.

Friday, September 5, 2014

The Light in Her Eyes

"Our kids LOVE going to school now."

"My four-year-old asked me about which planets have rings."

"The light in her eyes is on again!"

Over the past week, I have started each morning by having breakfast with new families and listening to their stories. The quotes above are just a sampling of observations about their children's responses to High Meadows.

Of the three quotes, the third one (or variations thereof) is probably the one I hear the most often. 

As parents, we know that light. It signals discovery, joy, love. We look for it every day and celebrate it when we see it. We also know the pain of seeing that lack of light, which we interpret as boredom. Lack of engagement. Resignation. 

For me, hearing that a child's eyes are illuminated is the highest praise possible for High Meadows and what our teachers do so well. They create an environment in which children feel invariably comfortable and confident. They encourage them to play and to question. Our teachers show respect for children as fellow human beings with a thirst for learning. And our kids love them for it.

Our great wish is that our children will continue to shine that light. As a beacon of light always does, it draws us in and guides us. May each child's light show other children--and all of us--the way to a full, joyful life.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Patriot or Globalist: Can You Be Both?

Originally published in May 2014

Last week’s school e-newsletter featured an article about our fourth and fifth graders’ study of human rights, which culminates in a public Exhibition Monday evening. The visual (below) that accompanied the article displayed the “Universal Declaration of Human Rights,” which lists the rights that all humans should have, regardless of who they are or where they come from. Some examples: the Right to Equal Representation, the Right to Belong to a Religion, the Right to Education. Pretty hard to take issue with these, right?

After emailing the newsletter, I received a reply from a recipient outside of the school: “My goodness. What happened to the Bill of Rights? Is that taught anymore?” It's a fair question. I believe it's imperative that our students learn about the governmental system we created and appreciate the national ideals we hold dear.

Quite by chance, I ran into the recipient of the email that very evening. After exchanging greetings, I thanked him/her (trying to protect his/her right to privacy) for the email and the question. I went on to explain that we study the Bill of Rights and the U.S. government extensively in third grade and again in middle years.

I like to think that nothing much surprises me anymore, but I was taken aback at the reply I received: “Well, that article scared me. I mean SCARED me.”

I didn’t really know how to respond to that gracefully, so I said something like “Don’t be scared,” using a patronizing tone like one might use with a very small child. What I should have said was, “Fear, specifically the eradication thereof, is the reason we have students go through such learning experiences.” I should have said that people learn empathy and understanding by breaking out of their comfort zone, by working to become less ignorant about others, by learning to question their own assumptions and judgments. I should have taken the moment to help him/her understand that there are universal, global truths that transcend borders and languages. I’m sure that person would have taken me by the hand and tearfully thanked me for helping him/her see the light.

At the risk of being too judgmental myself, my mind extrapolated what I thought might be that person’s deeper message. A continued dialogue might have led him/her to point out that patriotism is more important than globalism. That we should be teaching students the Bill of Rights instead of (as opposed to alongside of) the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. That the investigation and appreciation of different cultures, customs, and ways of life erodes the foundation of our own rights as citizens of the United States.

Whether my interpretation of the exchange was accurate or not or somewhere in between, it did set me to thinking about the supposed mutual exclusivity that some folks feel about valuing the world and valuing our nation. I reject such a notion. I value being a citizen of the United States. I love the freedoms I have grown up with, and I know that they have come at the sacrifice of a great many people. When I meet elected officials—regardless of political party--I thank them for their service to our country. When I meet a veteran or see a man or woman in uniform, I feel and typically express a deep and abiding gratitude for their service.

I love our country; I also love our world. I believe, and I think we should help our children to believe, that there are inalienable rights for all people everywhere. We enjoy many of those rights here in the United States, while people in other nations do not. It serves our country, our citizens, and our children to work toward a more just world in which human beings are unfettered from fear. As Dr. Martin Luther King put it so perfectly, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”

I will close with an experience I will never forget— one that brought globalism and patriotism together in an indelible and profound way for me. Before the winter holidays, I attended an open house at the Fugees Academy in Clarkston, Georgia. The academy is a unique tuition-free independent school where young adolescents, refugees from war-torn countries around the world, learn to become good students, good soccer players, good citizens, and good people. Most of these young people have witnessed atrocities that we cannot imagine. They have lived among war, poverty, and violence. They know personally what it is like to have their rights as humans denied. Relocated to the United States, these young men and women learn to navigate a strange society that is often skeptical and fearful of who they are. But they are strengthened by the love and support of each other, their teachers, and the belief that life will be more just and joyful here in the U.S.

At the conclusion of the open house, the students presented a wonderful concert of traditional American holiday songs. But before they sang of sleigh bells and snow, they led the audience in the most rousing, beautiful version of the Star-Spangled Banner I have ever heard. As the words “land of the free and the home of the brave” resounded throughout the room, I noticed that some of the students had tears in their eyes. I did too. Such is the power of being freely offered the rights you have been denied all your life by a country that is new and precious—and sometimes scary.

I wonder what the author of that email would have felt watching these young people—citizens of a world in search of human dignity—as they visibly expressed their gratitude for living in a nation that grants many critical rights in its own Constitution. I think he/she would have felt as proud and deeply moved as did every person in that room.

Now that's true patriotism.

Monday, April 7, 2014

What Does it Mean to be "Progressive" (at High Meadows)?

Progressive (adj.): favoring or advocating progress, change, improvement or reform, as opposed to wishing to maintain things as they are.

High Meadows is proud to call itself a "progressive" school. But what does that mean exactly? Progressive educators hold many beliefs in common, while there are others on which they disagree. One of my favorite pieces that seeks to define progressive education is Alfie Kohn's "Progressive Education: Why It's Hard to Beat, But Also Hard to Find," published in Independent School Magazine in 2008.

Kohn highlights the most common characteristics most progressive schools share, all of which can be observed at High Meadows on a daily basis:
  • Attending to the whole child
  • Community
  • Collaboration
  • Social Justice
  • Intrinsic Motivation
  • Deep Understanding
  • Active Learning
  • Taking Kids Seriously
Progressive schools choose to live these values in different ways. At High Meadows, one of the ways we build community is to have multi-age classooms; many progressive schools do not. We employ the IB Primary Years Program to engage students in deep understanding; other schools use similar "project-based" models. We demonstrate our belief in intrinsic motivation by not holding grades as a carrot at the end of a stick, while other progressive schools hand out grades freely (or use grade "proxies" like numbers and smiley faces).

Beyond the fact that High Meadows is progressive educationally, I also like to describe us as being progressive environmentally and socially. We guide children to understand that the natural world is connected to who we are, and that the active understanding of and care for that world is really caring for ourselves. We are socially progressive in that we value diversity and seek to live our diversity statement in meaningful and authentic ways. Most of our sister schools value these tenets deeply, but I think High Meadows demonstrates our commitment to them extraordinarily well.

I have written in the past (see the post below) that these angles of progressivism transcend politics; High Meadows is not a school that expects its families to be left wingers. We have a great diversity of political views at our school--from far left to far right and everything in between, which makes for wonderful discourse and opportunities for learning. As long as we all affirm our mission and guiding principles on behalf our children's education, that's what makes for a strong, vibrant, progressive community.